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Nyie hamna haki ya kuoa wala kuolewa.. kwa mujibu wa mleta thread.
Nyie hamna haki ya kuoa wala kuolewa.. kwa mujibu wa mleta thread.Kwaiyo sisi tuliolelewa na single parent tuoe/tuolewe na naniii???
Brain cells zako ndo mwisho wako wa kufikilia. Bila data you have nothing to show. Means you can't prove it. It's politicsMkuu wewe ni KUMAanisha umefanya uchunguzi hadi uombe kupewa data zilizofanyiwa uchunguzi?
know the probability outcomes of your life. You either change the norms and prevail or fall to the cycle. Generation single parenting.Kwaiyo sisi tuliolelewa na single parent tuoe/tuolewe na naniii???
yaani muongo na mzushi mwanzo mwisho.Nani alikudanganya?🤔
yaani muongo na mzushi mwanzo mwisho.
Tuko wengi tumelelewa na single parents kwa shida sana na tunawashukuru sana sana kwa bidii na jitihada zao.
Aidha wako wengi wamelelewa na wazazi wote wawili na hawana mpango wala heshima yo yote.
La muhimu ni kuwa mzazi aweze kumuongoza mtoto kiipasavyo.
Hicho kiingereza chako cha kujidai dai umeokota wapi?
hakuna cha emotional damage wala nini, kama ni strengths or weaknesses ziko kwa woteEmotional damage 101, work on the weakness not rejections
Mwache ajichanganye arudi kuomba ushairi hapNani alikudanganya?[emoji848]
Sina Hakika ila nakupinga nasema HAPANA kama kunamtu anaroho hiyo ya kutaka kumuona mwanaye anateseka kama yeye alivyo teseka Kwa kulelewa na mzazi mmoja basi huyo anaroho mbaya tu ambayo anaweza kua nayo yoyote yuleMtu aliyelelewa na single mother subconsciously atataka maisha ya kulelewa na mzazi m'moja yajirudie na kwa watoto wake sababu ndio Toxic System aliyorithi.
Kama ni mwanaume basi hatodate kwa misingi ya kuoa atadate ili kuzaa na mwanamke na hatojutia sababu yeye kakulia maisha ya hivyo.
Kama ni binti atakuwa anaogopa sana kucommit kwa mwanaume ambaye anaheshimu ndoa na anataka kupata mke kwanza kabla ya kumfanya kuwa mama watoto. Utaona binti anaanza vijisababu vya hapa na pale ili mradi tu ndoa isitokee yeye apite hivi.
Ila binti huyu atakuwa comfortable kuanzisha mahusiano na mume wa mtu maana deep down anajua hakutakuja kuwa na Ndoa hapo. Au ataanzisha mahusiano na hawa wanaume wahuni wasio na maadili ili tu apate sababu ya kujitetea baadae kuwa ilikuwa bahati mbaya au mwanaume ndie aliyesababisha. But deep down wanajua kuwa walichagua iwe hivyo haikuwa bahati mbaya.
Anyways, ukiona umetokea familia decent ambayo ina misingi ya heshima ya ndoa tafuta ambaye anatokea the same ili upunguze risks. Kama utakutana na ambaye anatokea single mother au single parent House hold then anzisha nae mahusiano but be very careful sababu its just a matter of time wanaweza kureveal who they really are.
Mkuu ulichoongea kina ukweli kiasi Fulani,na wapo kweli watu wwliolelewa na mzazi mmoja na wapo kwenye ndoa zao ila ni wachache.Sina Hakika ila nakupinga nasema HAPANA kama kunamtu anaroho hiyo ya kutaka kumuona mwanaye anateseka kama yeye alivyo teseka Kwa kulelewa na mzazi mmoja basi huyo anaroho mbaya tu ambayo anaweza kua nayo yoyote yule
Nimesoma na mtu ambaye anawazazi wote wawili lakini anataka mtoto wake aje asome shule kama tulivyo soma sisi ambayo ugali ni kama mbichi,maharage hayatii hamasa ya kula kisa anadahi kuwa mwanaye ataona uchungu WA kusoma mawazo ambayo ni tofauti kabisa na mimi ninaye waza kama nikiwa na mtoto nitafute pesa Ili nimuhudumie tene nimpe Mali inayoonekena ya kuanzia maisha sio elimu tu kama wasemavyo. Maana ninaijua dhiki anayopitia mama na mtoto PASIPO baba tena kama mama hayupo vizuri kiuchumi
Sasa mtu kama Mimi ninaijua kabisa dhiki ya kulelewa na mama peke,na kosa kitu Fulani sababu mama ameshindwa kunitimizia na muda mwingine na fikiria kwani kati ya Mimi na wao nani alimtaka mwenzie alafu nije ni ruhusu mtoto alelewe na mzazi mmoja tena mama HAPANA labda nitasemwa Kwa kutojua kuishi kikamilifu kama baba Kwa kuwa sijawahi kumuona baba yangu kabisa akinilee Kwa namna Fulani ambyo ndio mtindo sahii Kwa baba kuishi na mwanae
Unajua Huwa wanafikiria Nini tena akijua umemkimbia Kwasababu ya huoga wako tu mwenyewe na ulimtaka mwenyewe
HAPANA Mimi siwezi Kuna mda unahitaji tu ushairi kutoka Kwa baba au mama atakama Hana ele lakini unakosa huo ushairi,unakosa ada unawaza labda angekuwa baba au mama wangesaidiana ningepata ada lakini wapi mmoja hayupo
Sasa mtu unaijua hiyo DHIKI alafu unataka kufanya Kwa makusudi Kwa mtoto ambaye unamtaka wewe mwenyewe na Wala siyo yeye aliye kutaka HIYO NI ROHO MBAYA TU AMBAYO YEYOTE ANAWEZA KUWA NAYO
Maana wapo waliolelewa na mzazi mmoja hawana roho hiyo na wapo walio lelewa na wazazi wote wapo na roho hiyo
Yah! Kwa mtazomo huu inawezekanaMkuu ulichoongea kina ukweli kiasi Fulani,na wapo kweli watu wwliolelewa na mzazi mmoja na wapo kwenye ndoa zao ila ni wachache.
Tafsiri yangu hapa Nini Nini,Huwa tukiwa watoto tunajifunzia kupitia kwa wazazi wetu,tukiona wanapendana ndicho tunachojifunza hicho,lkn let say mfano mwanaume aliyelelewa na mama pekee,hawezi kuona thamani ya mke kwa sababu hakumuona baba akiwa na mama yake wanafurahi,hivyo yy ni rahisi sana kumtelekeza mke hata akiwa na watoto na kujisemea kuwa mbona hata mimi nilikuwa na mama tu na nimekuwa.
Dhana hii humjengea kutomthamini mwanamke kwa sababu naye hakuona mama akiishi na baba hivyo hata yy haoni umuhimu wa kuishi na mke wake na watoto,atakachofanya tena kwa kujiskia ni kuwatunza tu ili wasimsahau.
Hii yote ni mashambulizi kwa single mothers tu..tuwapumzishe hata kidogo jamani!1. They are selfish.
2. They are more likely to have a side family, child, multiple family or end the marriage for stupid reasons.
3. They are emotional damaged. They don't care of other people feelings. Any thing is the right way as long as wapo happy hata for a short time.
4. They always end up single parent for some reasons, research shows they are 3 times likely to have single parent family.
5. They always do some stupid things, kuna vitu watafanya you will wonder why. Mostly women , this you will notice.
6. Absense of there parents. Its always an excuse.
7. If your born in a complete family avoid these people as you can. Matatizo yao ndo your down fall. And they will leave you, with them.
8. They deserve one another. Born from a single parent vs born from a single parent. They can live together. Don't mix up.
9. More from comments, before you say NO. Use Google and i will add research links with time.
Avoid avoid avoid. Both gender utajuta 🙏
Kataa kwa facts. With research to back up your reasons. Sio kelele
PAPERS PUBLISHED BELOW
Link 1
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1365-2524.2008.00781.x
Link 2
Mental health
Mental health in young mothers, single mothers and their children - BMC Psychiatry
Background Parenthood is a life transition that can be especially demanding for vulnerable individuals. Young maternal age and maternal single status have been reported to increase the risk for adverse outcomes for both mother and child. The aim of this study was to investigate the effect of...link.springer.com
Link 3
[emoji1][emoji1][emoji1]Especially women women women
SIO kweli. Ni kwa wote. Wakimbia familiaHii yote ni mashambulizi kwa single mothers tu..tuwapumzishe hata kidogo jamani!
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Hii itakua pande zote mbiliKuna rafiki yangu ameolewa,mumewe amelelewa na mama pekee
Tabia hizi zote ulizoandika yule jamaa anazo especially hiyo ya kwanza
Ndoa ina mwaka tu lakini dada wa watu kachoka kama vile kakaa miaka 40!
Huenda kuna ukweli
Research inasema other wise. Wenye wame toka kwa familia ya wazazi wote. Wanapigania familia zao sisimame. Hata wakikosea wanaomba msamaha. Single parents wanaendekeza single parenting. Any fight they just give up. Money availability sio malezi bora. Ni wazazi kuwepo na mtoto akiwaitaji. Emotionally, physically and socially.Sina Hakika ila nakupinga nasema HAPANA kama kunamtu anaroho hiyo ya kutaka kumuona mwanaye anateseka kama yeye alivyo teseka Kwa kulelewa na mzazi mmoja basi huyo anaroho mbaya tu ambayo anaweza kua nayo yoyote yule
Nimesoma na mtu ambaye anawazazi wote wawili lakini anataka mtoto wake aje asome shule kama tulivyo soma sisi ambayo ugali ni kama mbichi,maharage hayatii hamasa ya kula kisa anadahi kuwa mwanaye ataona uchungu WA kusoma mawazo ambayo ni tofauti kabisa na mimi ninaye waza kama nikiwa na mtoto nitafute pesa Ili nimuhudumie tene nimpe Mali inayoonekena ya kuanzia maisha sio elimu tu kama wasemavyo. Maana ninaijua dhiki anayopitia mama na mtoto PASIPO baba tena kama mama hayupo vizuri kiuchumi
Sasa mtu kama Mimi ninaijua kabisa dhiki ya kulelewa na mama peke,na kosa kitu Fulani sababu mama ameshindwa kunitimizia na muda mwingine na fikiria kwani kati ya Mimi na wao nani alimtaka mwenzie alafu nije ni ruhusu mtoto alelewe na mzazi mmoja tena mama HAPANA labda nitasemwa Kwa kutojua kuishi kikamilifu kama baba Kwa kuwa sijawahi kumuona baba yangu kabisa akinilee Kwa namna Fulani ambyo ndio mtindo sahii Kwa baba kuishi na mwanae
Unajua Huwa wanafikiria Nini tena akijua umemkimbia Kwasababu ya huoga wako tu mwenyewe na ulimtaka mwenyewe
HAPANA Mimi siwezi Kuna mda unahitaji tu ushairi kutoka Kwa baba au mama atakama Hana ele lakini unakosa huo ushairi,unakosa ada unawaza labda angekuwa baba au mama wangesaidiana ningepata ada lakini wapi mmoja hayupo
Sasa mtu unaijua hiyo DHIKI alafu unataka kufanya Kwa makusudi Kwa mtoto ambaye unamtaka wewe mwenyewe na Wala siyo yeye aliye kutaka HIYO NI ROHO MBAYA TU AMBAYO YEYOTE ANAWEZA KUWA NAYO
Maana wapo waliolelewa na mzazi mmoja hawana roho hiyo na wapo walio lelewa na wazazi wote wapo na roho hiyo
Msikivu , anayejali awe na nidham kwa kila mtuNi mwanamke gani mtasema anafaa kuolewa, hata akija mtoto wa mchungaji hapa mtaleta sababu zaidi ya 20 kumkataa.
Ingekuwa km madai yako tabu zingezidi tulizonazo,ila ni uoga wako.1. They are selfish.
2. They are more likely to have a side family, child, multiple family or end the marriage for stupid reasons.
3. They are emotional damaged. They don't care of other people feelings. Any thing is the right way as long as wapo happy hata for a short time.
4. They always end up single parent for some reasons, research shows they are 3 times likely to have single parent family.
5. They always do some stupid things, kuna vitu watafanya you will wonder why. Mostly women , this you will notice.
6. Absense of there parents. Its always an excuse.
7. If your born in a complete family avoid these people as you can. Matatizo yao ndo your down fall. And they will leave you, with them.
8. They deserve one another. Born from a single parent vs born from a single parent. They can live together. Don't mix up.
9. More from comments, before you say NO. Use Google and i will add research links with time.
Avoid avoid avoid. Both gender utajuta 🙏
Kataa kwa facts. With research to back up your reasons. Sio kelele
PAPERS PUBLISHED BELOW
Link 1
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1365-2524.2008.00781.x
Link 2
Mental health
Mental health in young mothers, single mothers and their children - BMC Psychiatry
Background Parenthood is a life transition that can be especially demanding for vulnerable individuals. Young maternal age and maternal single status have been reported to increase the risk for adverse outcomes for both mother and child. The aim of this study was to investigate the effect of...link.springer.com
Link 3
Do investigations. Hata kwenye ndoa wapi wanaolewa, na kutulia na ndoa zao. Na hata wakidivorce wanajua umuhimu wa ndoa . They will always fight for a better life. Ila wengine wana sema sawa mungu Amepanga its okay.Mwache ajichanganye arudi kuomba ushairi hap
Sina research ila ninawaona mtahani hapa watu wamelelewa na wazazi wawili ila ndo videgejon na chura maarifu na wengine ndio wanajiita ma MP katika makundi yao ya wavuta bangi
Huku walio lelewa hasa na mama peke yake ndo wamekuwa watu wenyeuchungu wakutotaka KUONA mtoto akizaliwa Kisha kukuso malezi ya pande mbili tena hapa mtahani wadada wenye wazazi wawili ndo wanawatoto WA sio na baba
Naliambiwa hayana kannuni ila unaweza kujaribu kuutafuta aliye sahii ila usiweke asilimia mia maana utapopata asiye sahii uone ni kawaida Kisha ugange yajao
MWENYEZI MUNGU ATUSAIDIE
Kuna research hapo chini. Hii sio story za kijiweniIngekuwa km madai yako tabu zingezidi tulizonazo,ila ni uoga wako.