Cole Williams
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hawawezi iondoa kwenye Equation hiyo
hawawezi iondoa kwenye Equation hiyoUsicheke man..Inabidi wanyooshe maelezo tu
Wacha weee 😄 ndio kumpenda mtu vipi huko mpka kuwa kichaaTupendeni mpaka tuchanganyikiwe muone maajabu!! 😉😁
Mkichanganyikiwa inakuwaje kwa mfanoTupendeni mpaka tuchanganyikiwe muone maajabu!! 😉😁
Hutaki mume dokta unataka nini sasa 😁Staki!!!
It’s hard for some people to process nuance. That’s too much brain-work for them.Hizi mada muwe mnaziweka na qualification, caveat emptor, context kwamba mnajikita kuwaongelea wanaume wa aina gani, nuance.
Ili kuondoa muonekano kwamba mmelundika wanaume karibu wote kwenye kundi moja.
Kitu ambacho kinaweza kufuta points nyingi nzuri ulizotaka kuwakilisha, na kutengeneza a very unnecessary gender war.
Ukishaona kauli za jumla kama "wanaume ni..." au "wanawake ni..." apart from a very narrow set of statements that stays in the definition domain, most times unakuta kuna an absolutist, unfounded generalization.
Nikijiangalia mimi binafsi kama mwanamme naona umenionea sana kuniweka kundi moja na watu wengi unaowazungumzia hapo, kwa sababu siko hivyo.
But then again, I am not your regular Joe. I was top of my class everywhere I went, I was hanging out on the floor of The New York Stock Exchange at the beginn9ng of my career. I got cribs from Oysterbay, New York to Oysterbay Dar es salaam. Enough about me.
But, that's my point.
Be specific enough to exclude some of us enlightened gentlemen who are past this level of medieval mediocrity.
Else, we will start to think you are just being bitter against all men.
A few - or even many- misogynistic posts here do not represent all men, not even all Tanzanian born men.
I am proof of that. These people do not represent me.
I feel like being caught in an episode of that show called "I'm A Celebrity, Get Me Out of Here".
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Undava undava tuu kitaelewwka huko mbeleni maana mmekuwa kichwa ngumuHello guys, bado tupo January, so Happy New Year!!
Ni muda sasa nimekua nikisoma na kusikia wakaka mnavyolaumu wanawake kukosa utii na heshima kwenye ndoa na mahusiano, kuwa jeuri sana na kuendekeza gubu.
Imefika mahali elimu na mafanikio ya mwanamke ndio vinaonekana kuwa chanzo cha matatizo haya, pamoja na mengine mengi.🙁
Binafsi sikubaliani nanyi hata kidogo.
Utii hauletwi na mtu kutokua "msomi"! Utii, kama vitu vingine vingi ambavyo hutolewa kwa hiari huwa havitolewi isipokua pale muhusika anapoonekana anastahili.
You can instill fear on a person, ukanunua nidhamu ya uongo, ngono, mapenzi ya kinafiki and so on...ila upendo, utii na kujaliwa ambako ni halisi (real/genuine) hutolewa kwa hiari, na hiari haishurutishwi hata siku moja. Si kwa mazingira (circumstances), uhitaji, pesa, hofu, wala nguvu ya mtu.
Tatizo linakuja pale mnapotaka kuchukua bila kutoa. Trust me, you can not take without giving!!
Wanaume nyie mnataka tuwapende, mnataka tuwajali (mbembelezwe na kupetiwa petiwa), tuwaheshimu, tuwatii, tuwasikilize, tuwa-appreciate etc. , ila nyie mnafanya juhudi gani kututengenezea mazingira/ kutuweka kwenye position ya kuwapa hayo yote na zaidi bila kujiona wajinga? Pengine tunafelishana in the sense that hamna anaetaka kuonekana mnyonge, nyie mnatuonyesha ubabe kwahiyo na sisi tunawaonyesha jeuri.
Hii pia inatokana na the fact that kuna baadhi wanakuwa na watu ambao sio sahihi kwao, either kwa tamaa, uzembe ama haraka ya kuingia kwenye mahusiano. Mtu wa hivi hata umbebe mgongoni, it will never change the fact that HAKUPENDI! Anaweza akawa anakuhitaji kwa sababu moja ama nyingine, but that's pretty much it.
Ukweli ni kwamba, ukiwa na mtu sahihi kwako na ukam-treat vizuri, she'll naturally become your peace...and vice versa!
Tukiacha kushindana, kila mmoja akaanza kumpa mwenzie kila anachoweza kumpa without conditions, judgement, or holding back, maisha yatakua rahisi sana.
Akikujibu nitonye maana hapo ndio mambo ya msingi uanziaHata sijaelewa kwa kile ulichokiandika hapa. Tuanzie hapa, kwani umeolewa bidada?
Usijekuwa ni mtu unaeweka sumu kwenye chakula ambacho hata wewe haukitumii.
Kha! Sasa hii lugha yenu ya mzungu ndio mnatuchanganya na sie bodaboda wapenda jf. Ebu ongeeni englisha ya fomu fooo tupate kuelewaIt’s hard for some people to process nuance. That’s too much brain-work for them.
To them, it’s much easier to think within the confines of dichotomous thinking. Not outside of it.
Lately I’ve been seeing an increase in misogynistic and misandristic topics, with little to no nuance at all.
That’s why it seems like there is a low-key gender war going on.
Navigating nuance must be a tough mental exercise for many people….
The sad thing is, where a nuanced and qualified response would do much to shine light on the misogyny/ misandry, an unnuanced, or at least insufficiently nuanced response is perpetuating essentially the same ignorance of generalization and false dichotomies.It’s hard for some people to process nuance. That’s too much brain-work for them.
To them, it’s much easier to think within the confines of dichotomous thinking. Not outside of it.
Lately I’ve been seeing an increase in misogynistic and misandristic topics, with little to no nuance at all.
That’s why it seems like there is a low-key gender war going on.
Navigating nuance must be a tough mental exercise for many people….
Mbona kawaida tu 😀.Kha! Sasa hii lugha yenu ya mzungu ndio mnatuchanganya na sie bodaboda wapenda jf. Ebu ongeeni englisha ya fomu fooo tupate kuelewa
Ah ndio hivyo hivyo wanawake wakishala masters na phd zao waananza vingereza vya ajabu ajabu. Speak simple english bwana na sie tupate kuelewaMbona kawaida tu 😀.
Utaambiwa "That's your privilege talking".Mbona kawaida tu 😀.
Hello guys, bado tupo January, so Happy New Year!!
Ni muda sasa nimekua nikisoma na kusikia wakaka mnavyolaumu wanawake kukosa utii na heshima kwenye ndoa na mahusiano, kuwa jeuri sana na kuendekeza gubu.
Imefika mahali elimu na mafanikio ya mwanamke ndio vinaonekana kuwa chanzo cha matatizo haya, pamoja na mengine mengi.[emoji853]
Binafsi sikubaliani nanyi hata kidogo.
Utii hauletwi na mtu kutokua "msomi"! Utii, kama vitu vingine vingi ambavyo hutolewa kwa hiari huwa havitolewi isipokua pale muhusika anapoonekana anastahili.
You can instill fear on a person, ukanunua nidhamu ya uongo, ngono, mapenzi ya kinafiki and so on...ila upendo, utii na kujaliwa ambako ni halisi (real/genuine) hutolewa kwa hiari, na hiari haishurutishwi hata siku moja. Si kwa mazingira (circumstances), uhitaji, pesa, hofu, wala nguvu ya mtu.
Tatizo linakuja pale mnapotaka kuchukua bila kutoa. Trust me, you can not take without giving!!
Wanaume nyie mnataka tuwapende, mnataka tuwajali (mbembelezwe na kupetiwa petiwa), tuwaheshimu, tuwatii, tuwasikilize, tuwa-appreciate etc. , ila nyie mnafanya juhudi gani kututengenezea mazingira/ kutuweka kwenye position ya kuwapa hayo yote na zaidi bila kujiona wajinga? Pengine tunafelishana in the sense that hamna anaetaka kuonekana mnyonge, nyie mnatuonyesha ubabe kwahiyo na sisi tunawaonyesha jeuri.
Hii pia inatokana na the fact that kuna baadhi wanakuwa na watu ambao sio sahihi kwao, either kwa tamaa, uzembe ama haraka ya kuingia kwenye mahusiano. Mtu wa hivi hata umbebe mgongoni, it will never change the fact that HAKUPENDI! Anaweza akawa anakuhitaji kwa sababu moja ama nyingine, but that's pretty much it.
Ukweli ni kwamba, ukiwa na mtu sahihi kwako na ukam-treat vizuri, she'll naturally become your peace...and vice versa!
Tukiacha kushindana, kila mmoja akaanza kumpa mwenzie kila anachoweza kumpa without conditions, judgement, or holding back, maisha yatakua rahisi sana.
Amedai yupo upande wa Kataa NdoaAkikujibu nitonye maana hapo ndio mambo ya msingi uanzia
Aisee...kwa hiyo ni bachelorette suguAmedai yupo upande wa Kataa Ndoa
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Ni kweli kabisa mahusiano ya kudumu ya sikuhizi yamekuwa kama sehemu ya kutaka kunyooshana(kubadilishana) inasikitisha sana, Unapo deal na mwanaume inakupasa automatically ujue una deal na Kiongozi, hakuna kiongozi anayependa kuona mamlaka yake yana dogoshwa (mambo ya haki sawa) kwa namna yoyote ile, Principle ya kwanza unapo deal na kiongozi yeyote yule ni kuwa mnyenyekevu na Mtiifu, ukilielewa hili hautopata tabu kudeal na sisi wanaume, ukiona upo na mwanaume asiye demand hivyo vitu viwili jua umeingia cha kike, kupitia unyenyekevu na utiifu wako unaweza ukamlaghai mwanaume kadiri upendavyo. Unapoleta Jeuri mwanaume atatumia namna yeyote ile kukuonyesha kuwa yeye ni MWANAUME, Vivyo hivyo mwanaume anapo deal na mwanamke inampasa ajue nafasi ya mwanamke ni ipi kwa maana kiongozi ukiwa na sifa mbovu hata wanaopaswa kukutumikia watakudharau.Ndio maana nikasema tunafelishana kwasababu mahusiano yamekua sehemu ya watu kuonyeshana hamna anaemmudu mwenzie badala ya kupendana, kuelewana na kuheshimiana. Hivi vitu vitatu vikiwepo mengine mengi yanakuja kirahisi, na kama ulivyosema, majadiliano ni bora zaidi kuliko kuleteana jeuri.
Sio kila mwanamke ni wa kuolewa akafit kukaa kwenye ndoa, baadhi ni wa kugongwa na kuzalishwa tu
Nyani kama nyani 🤣It’s hard for some people to process nuance. That’s too much brain-work for them.
To them, it’s much easier to think within the confines of dichotomous thinking. Not outside of it.
Lately I’ve been seeing an increase in misogynistic and misandristic topics, with little to no nuance at all.
That’s why it seems like there is a low-key gender war going on.
Navigating the contours of nuance must be a tough mental exercise for many….
Tatizo Upendo wetu mmeugeuza chanzo cha mapato. Ili uone umependwa hutaki kuoneshwa upendo pekeyake ule upendo wa lugha za mahaba na vizawadi eti ni hadi upewe hela ya kodi na takataka zingine ndio unaona unapendwa.