Ulivyokua kijana na kipindi cha balehe (teen age), mahusiano yako na baba yako yalikuwaje?
Nina watoto wa kiume wapo kipindi cha balehe na hawaivi kabisa na baba yao, japo hapo zamani walikua wana ukaribu sana. Ugomvi hauishi, kila kitu kidogo lazima watoto wapate mihemuko au wapate hasira na baba yao naye anakasirika (they trigger each other kupita kiasi). Watoto pia hawana uoga kuongea mbele ya baba kama wakiambiwa kitu na hawana utayari (japo huwa hawavunji heshima au kutukana).
Hii hali ni mpya (kwa miaka kadhaa sasa) tokea waingie kwenye balehe (teen years). Wazazi ambao mmeshalea male teens (vijana wa kume wakiwa kwenye balehe) uzoefu wenu ulikuwaje na je baada ya balehe, ukaribu na mahusiano huwa yanarudi tena kama zamani?
Na wanaume wa JF, vipi na wakati unakua mahusiano yako na wazazi yalikuwaje?
Asanteni na Jumapili njema!
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1. Huyo baba Anakidemu nje alafu wadogo wanajua ila hawawezi kusema kwa bimkubwa ila wanachukia sana!
Kinachotokea ni kwamba, mzee hata akiongea anaonekana sio msafi mbele ya macho yao!
wana kitu cha kumlipua mzee akiendelea ku implement pressure kwao. Sasa Hiyo kitu lazima ishushe credibility kwa mzee
2.mzee anaongozwa ha hisia mbaya za makisio dhidi ya watoto wake wa kiume.
Inawezekana ana hisia mbaya zinazosababishwa na barehe ya watoto haswa aki reflect wakat wake wa barehe yeye alikuaje!
Anapata hofu kwamba watakuwa na madem na tabia za kishenzi huko nje!
Haswa wanapoanza kuongeza demand za mahitaji. Kwa watoto wa kiume tunakuwa na hizi tabia tunapoingia kwenye hiyo stage alafu tupate dem
1.fixed fees za shule, yaan hapo mzazi utapigwa mizinga ya michango hadi basi
2.kurudi home mapema ni changamoto kidogo kitu kinachomchochea mzazi kuhisi labda kuna ufiraun mdogoli anaufanya
3.adulthood effects kama kujiskia vibaya akifokewa, akiagizwa kufanya jambo fulani(kama wapo wawili huwa mbaya zaidi) hapo anakuwa anahisi yy ni mkubwa astahili kufanya hicho wakati kuna mdogoli wake.
Hasira za karibu(hizi zinasababishwa na fighting for recognition!) Katka nafsi yake kuna kitu kinamsukuma aoneshe yy ni mkubwa na wazazi mlijue hilo! Hiyo ni hali ya kawaida kabisa na inadumu kwa muda mpaka pale atakapoanza kuhisi yes now i retain my respect..
Mzee apunguze tu mikwara aseeh kwasabb huo umri mtoto anakuwa nje ya dunia ya woga kabisa badala yake anakuwa na heshima tu ya kutambua huyu ni mzazi, but ni very limited si wa kujifanyia kila anachotaka kwangu kwasabab tu kanizaa!!
Mzee anataka kutumia ubabe umri wa kutumia maongezi zaidi!!
Fimbo ya kijana wa miaka ya barehe ni maneno! Amini nakwambia maneno yanamuumiza vibaya sana kuliko viboko vya matakoni!
Ajitahidi kutumia lugha zenye ukali lakini wa heshima(asitweze utoto wa mtoto na akakweza ukubwa wake kam mzazi)
Atumie lugha za michano ya kiume ile!
Sio ngonjera za bi kidude!
Kumbusho tu kw madingi!
Umri wa kuchapa na kufundisha watoto kwa nguvu ni huo mnaowadekeza na kuwaita majina yote ya upenzi kwa watoto(miaka 03-11)
Mtoto akipita huo umri hutakiwi tena kuendekeza ubabe kwa sababu tayar akili yake inaanza kupembua zuri na baya! Tumia maneno mzee
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