On point….
But have you ever thought it this way…? Kuna kugombania nafasi na kufungana speed governer, inasemekana wanawake tukiachiwa vipato vyetu tuvitumie tuwezavyo then tuna tabia ya kujiendeleza binafsi na mwisho wa siku tunavunja ndoa na kutaka mgao, kama mchango wa tulivyokuwa kwenye ndoa.
Sasa hapo ndipo kwenye kasheshe, najaribu sana kuelewa point yao kwenye hili… na ndio maana tuna/wanaomba sheria za mgawanyo wa mali zibadilike (i am still young kuzijua hizo sheria) ila kama zinakandamiza mtafutaji pia nina support zibadilishwe.
What’s your take?
Yes, ni vizuri kujipanga na unforeseen circumstances, maana upendo unaweza kuisha au zika-rise interest zingine zikawatenganisha couple, ni vizuri kufikiria what would happen if things go wrong?
Sipo kwenye ndoa, ila nadhani ndoa nyingi zinaharibiwa na ushauri wa marafiki wenye negative mind kuhusu ndoa. (utasikia, "shoga'angu jiongeze, unadhani upo peke yako?)
(au utasikia,"msela jiongeze")
in life, kila kitu ni kugamble tu, ukiweka savings, kustart business, marriage na kustart family, kusoma formal education, etc. zote ni gambling, things can go right or wrong kote huko.
Kama ikitokea gamble ya marriage haijawork out for good as expected. Basi unatulia unajisemea, "sio mbaya, at least i tried"
Kuhusu hoja ya kwamba, "women wakiwa free na wasipopangiwa namna ya kutumia income zao, mwisho wa siku wanabomoa ndoa na kutaka mgawo pasu kwa pasu"
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Hii kila mtu atakuwa na mtizamo wake, ila for me nataka wife awe na pesa zake na awe huru. Sidhani kama nitaweza kumchunga mtu, NI NGUMU MNO. Nikimpenda nahakikisha anajua nampenda, na afeel, afu the rest juu ya decisions zake hilo ni juu yake (wife). Tutadiscuss direction ya familia kwa short na long terms, falsafa ipi ya marriage tunaifata, tutadiscuss pesa na bills ila i won't force her.
so kama kesho kila mmoja ana interest sehm nyingine, basi it is what it is. KUFORCE KUPENDWA NI HATARI SANA.
Ikifika tumeshindwana, basi ntamwomba tuwe waelewa, tusitumie mihemko jazba na hisia, tu-settle kwenye sense ili tumalize vitu kirafiki, "tugawane according to our respective inputs"
Mahakamani tutaenda tu kuwapa taarifa basi ili isilete shida baadae kisheria, ili kila mtu awe huru without any legal burden.
Hapo kama tunao kids, ntamwomba tukubaliane vitu muhimu vya mahitaji na better future ya kids. Na sote tuwajibike coz makosa yetu yasiwe mzigo kwa kids (coz it's no fault of theirs)
Although life is full of uncertainties , lakini sasa je ndo tusifurahie maisha? 🤔
So, binafsi nadhani tufurahie maisha, tuishi..
Analyse risk-benefit afu gamble or bet on what you can afford to lose.
"penye upendo ambao ni mutual, huwa hapahitaji kutumia nguvu sana, vitu huwa vina flow effortlessly hata kama mke na mume wote wapo na kipato stable, ila ukiona nguvu inatumika kubwa mno kujaribu kufanya muelewane, hauenjoy na hata haummiss, hisia zipo butu, then hapo sio penyewe, hapo lazma muanze kuzozana kwenye ulipaji bills"
