LIKUD
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First of all WHY IS SHE A SINGLE MOTHER?
She is a single mother because she has break up with the father of her kid(s) or if she was married then she is a single mother because she has divorced with the father of her kid(s)
WHY HAS SHE BREAK UP/ DIVORCED WITH THE FATHER OF HER KID(S)?
There are two reasons :
1. The father of her kids has left her
Or
2. She has left the father of her kids
1. IF THE FATHER OF HER KIDS HAS LEFT HER:
If this is the case then she is a very big problem of which u cannot handle.
Hakunaga mwanaume anae jitambua ambae anaweza kuwa na ujasiri wa kumuacha au kumtaliki mwanamke ambae amezaa nae mtoto au watoto. Nasema tena hakunaga.
Personally i want to have a relationship with my kids which i had with my father. Nimekuwa nikiwaona baba na mama wakiwa pamoja na nimeziona faida za kulelewa na baba na mama. Kwa gharama yotote ile sitokuwa tayari kuona damu yangu ikilelewa tofauti na nilivyo lelewa mimi.
SOMEBODY CAN SAY " WHAT ABOUT WANAUME WALIO LELEWA NA SINGLE MOTHERS "? Hawa ndio hawapo tayari kabisa kuona watoto wao wakilelewa na single parent kwa sababu wame experience kwa vitendo ugumu na mateso ya kulelewa na single mother. And they will say " I WANT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY KIDS WHICH I DIDNT HAVE WITH MY FATHER".
Siwezi kukubali kuwaacha watoto wangu walelewe na mama yao peke yake au walelewe na mama yao na mwanaume mwingine.
Ukiona mwanaume hadi anafikia hatua ya kumruhusu aondoke mwanamke ambae amezaa nae watoto basi jua mwanamke huyo ni tatizo kubwa sana ambalo wewe hutoweza kuli handle.
IF SHE HAS BEEN DIVORCED ndio worse zaidi kwa sababu wote tunajua kwamba ukitalikiana na mwanamke unatakiwa kuwa unalipa pesa ya matunzo ya watoto kila mwezi na kwa wenzetu wa nchi zilizoendelea kama Marekani wapo very strictly kwenye malipo na malipo hutegemeana na kipato cha baba.
SASA BASI KAMA NINATOA PESA YA MATUNZO KWA MWANAMKE AMBAE NIMEZAA NAE NA AMBAE SIPO NAE TENA TAFSIRI YAKE NI KWAMBA " I AM PAYING MONEY IN ORDER TO DO NOT LIVE WITH HER!!!"
Its like umeenda kwenye Restaurant ukakutana na jamaa ambae yupo tayari KUTOA PESA ILI ASILE CHAKULA KWENYE HIYO RESTAURANT. Utakuwa na ujasiri wa ajabu sana kama utalipa pesa kula chakula hicho.
2. IF SHE IS THE ONE WHO HAS LEFT THE FATHER OF HER KIDS.
Why did she left the father of her kids? Some one who is a very important person to the lives of her kids.
There is one reason.
She left the guy because he turned out to be a bad guy. She left him because she is an ass hole.
IF HE IS AN ASS HOLE THEN WHY DID SHE BE WITH HIM AT FIRST PLACE?
There are two reasons:
1. She is a POOR JUDGE OF CHARACTER.. A poor judge of character among other things is a person who is characterised with making poor and bad decisions
She did not know that he was an ass hole when she was dating him.
She went on ahead to become pregant for him.
Yani hakujua kama jamaa ni an ass hole wakati wanaanza mahusiano.
Akafikia mpaka hatua ya kubeba ujauzito wa an asshole tena kabla ya ndoa.!!!!
Yani mpaka muda wote huo hakujua tu kwamba she was dealing with an asshole?
Then she is a poor judge of character.
And in case for the divorced. Mwanamke ume anza kudate na mwanaume, mmekuwa wachumba, mmefunga ndoa, umezaa nae mtoto wa kwanza, wa pili, wa tatu ndio unakuja kujua kwamba he is just an asshole then it means that ur a poor judge of character.
U dont need to be trusted in as far the issue of making rational decision is concerned.
If she is a poor judge of character then guess what ? Next time when she makes her foolish decision you will be the victim of that decision and i cant tell what else she can do.This time around it will be worse. Because if she was capable of carrying a baby for an asshole then what any other thing that she cannot do?
Getting a baby with an asshole is as good as killing that baby. If she can kill her own kid then what else can she not do?
The point is whatever this poor woman is going to decide u will be the one to fall a victim. I am talking to you guy that thinks that it is cool to date or marry a single.mother.
2. SHE IS ATTRACTED TO IRRESPONSIBLE AND BAD GUYS.
A guy that has the guts to impregnate a girl and leave or abandon her with the kids is simply a bad guy, an irresponsible guy or an asshole .
The fact that she got a baby for him demonstrates that she is narurally attracted to bad guys.
She is not attracted to a " nice guy" like you. Ur not her type ndio maana when she was in her prime u couldn't be able to even see the place where she has urinated.
But now she is with you because she knows that the type od guys that she is primarily attracted to( the bad guys) are no longer interested with her.
So she has come to you because she think ur a " nice guy" and u can handle her kids.
She knows for real that the bad guy can never take that kind of shit.
Blv me atakapo kuzoea atarudi kwa aina ya wanaume ambao anavutiwa nao kiukweli ukweli ( the bas guys) na wewe utabaki kama financial supporter to fund her life style and take care of her kids.
Atakuonyesha mapenzi mengi ya uongo lakini kiukweli kabisa yeye mapenzi yake ni kwa bad guys.
Ur not her type. She is with you because she think ur a " nice guy" and to them a.nice guy means a foolish guy. The only good think about nice guys is that they are nice ( nice guys means foolish guys)
Am talking about the kinds of the nice ( foolish guys ) who can play the role of a very perfect step daddy but cannot take care of their own blood.
No wonder they say nice guys are always not nice to themselves.
SULUHISHO:
1. KUHUSU NDOA MWANAMKE ATAFUTIWE MUME NA BABA AKE MZAZI AU KAMA BABA AKE MZAZI HAYUPO HAI BASI BABA ZAKE WAKUBWA AU BABA ZAKE WADOGO AU WAJOMBA ZAKE.
Kwanini ? Kwa sababu most women are poor judge of characters. They are not capable of making rational decision when it comes to choosing their life partners ( husband)
Utaratibu huu upo toka enzi za Pontyo wa Pilato. Babu zetu waliufuata utaratibu huu ndio maana ndoa zao zilidumu.
Familia nyingi za kitajiri wanafuata utaratibu huu. Hata familia za baadhi ya viongozi wakubwa hufuata utaratibu huu.
Mfano mzuri ni kiongozi wa juu wa nchi moja jirani. Binti yake akiwa anasoma.nchini Marekani mzee akapata taarifa kwamba binti amepata mchumba raia wa Senegali ambae walikuwa wanasoma wote chuo kimoja. Jamaa huyo wa Senegali alikuwa mchezaji mzuri wa mpira wa kikapu na baadae alichukuliwa na timu moja ya NBA.
Baba alivyo sikia hivyo akasema usinitanie. Akamtuma mama wa binti aende Marekani kumwambia binti yake aachane na huyo mchumba wake mara moja.
Mzee akafanya vetting ya maana na akapatikana kijana mmoja raia wa nchi hiyo hiyo ambae familia yake na familia ya mh huyo zina uhusiano wa Karibu kwa miongo kadhaa. Kijana huyo alizaliwa na kukulia Canada na binti huyo alizaliwa Belgium.
Mwisho wa siku Ndoa ya wawili hao ilifungwa.
2. Stop dating or marrying single mother because ur encouraging their previous behaviour. Ifike mahali jamii ianze kulipa suala la usingo maza uzito unao stahili. Dating or marrying a single mother is not cool.
Katika mafundisho ya uislamu kuna fundisho linasema ukizaa mtoto kabla au nje ya ndoa mtoto huyo anakuwa sio mtoto wala hana haki ya kurithi mali zako na kama ni mtoto wa kike basi unaruhusiwa hata kumuoa.
Lengo la andiko hilo sio kuwa encourage watu wawaoe binti zao walio wazaa nje ya ndoa ama kuwa encourage watu wawanyime haki zao watoto wa nje ya ndoa ila lengo lake ni KUONYESHA KIWANGO CHA UBAYA WA KUZAA WATOTO KABLA AU NJE YA NDOA.
Kwa ajili ya kuilinda Taasisi Tukufu ya Ndoa na kwa maslahi mapana ya makuzi na malezi ya watoto( ambao ndio wanapaswa kuwa beneficiaries wakubwa wa ndoa) zitengenezwe sheria zina jinaisha mambo kama :
1. Kumuoa mwanamke mwenye mtoto liwe kosa la jinai lenye adhabu kali.
2. Kuoa mwanamke ambae ameachika na ambae wakati ana achika alikuwa na mtoto au watoto liwe kosa kisheria lenye adhabu kali.
3.
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Kwa ufupi makosa hayo yakulikane kama " UHALIFU DHIDI YA MIFUMO YA KIJAMII"
She is a single mother because she has break up with the father of her kid(s) or if she was married then she is a single mother because she has divorced with the father of her kid(s)
WHY HAS SHE BREAK UP/ DIVORCED WITH THE FATHER OF HER KID(S)?
There are two reasons :
1. The father of her kids has left her
Or
2. She has left the father of her kids
1. IF THE FATHER OF HER KIDS HAS LEFT HER:
If this is the case then she is a very big problem of which u cannot handle.
Hakunaga mwanaume anae jitambua ambae anaweza kuwa na ujasiri wa kumuacha au kumtaliki mwanamke ambae amezaa nae mtoto au watoto. Nasema tena hakunaga.
Personally i want to have a relationship with my kids which i had with my father. Nimekuwa nikiwaona baba na mama wakiwa pamoja na nimeziona faida za kulelewa na baba na mama. Kwa gharama yotote ile sitokuwa tayari kuona damu yangu ikilelewa tofauti na nilivyo lelewa mimi.
SOMEBODY CAN SAY " WHAT ABOUT WANAUME WALIO LELEWA NA SINGLE MOTHERS "? Hawa ndio hawapo tayari kabisa kuona watoto wao wakilelewa na single parent kwa sababu wame experience kwa vitendo ugumu na mateso ya kulelewa na single mother. And they will say " I WANT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY KIDS WHICH I DIDNT HAVE WITH MY FATHER".
Siwezi kukubali kuwaacha watoto wangu walelewe na mama yao peke yake au walelewe na mama yao na mwanaume mwingine.
Ukiona mwanaume hadi anafikia hatua ya kumruhusu aondoke mwanamke ambae amezaa nae watoto basi jua mwanamke huyo ni tatizo kubwa sana ambalo wewe hutoweza kuli handle.
IF SHE HAS BEEN DIVORCED ndio worse zaidi kwa sababu wote tunajua kwamba ukitalikiana na mwanamke unatakiwa kuwa unalipa pesa ya matunzo ya watoto kila mwezi na kwa wenzetu wa nchi zilizoendelea kama Marekani wapo very strictly kwenye malipo na malipo hutegemeana na kipato cha baba.
SASA BASI KAMA NINATOA PESA YA MATUNZO KWA MWANAMKE AMBAE NIMEZAA NAE NA AMBAE SIPO NAE TENA TAFSIRI YAKE NI KWAMBA " I AM PAYING MONEY IN ORDER TO DO NOT LIVE WITH HER!!!"
Its like umeenda kwenye Restaurant ukakutana na jamaa ambae yupo tayari KUTOA PESA ILI ASILE CHAKULA KWENYE HIYO RESTAURANT. Utakuwa na ujasiri wa ajabu sana kama utalipa pesa kula chakula hicho.
2. IF SHE IS THE ONE WHO HAS LEFT THE FATHER OF HER KIDS.
Why did she left the father of her kids? Some one who is a very important person to the lives of her kids.
There is one reason.
She left the guy because he turned out to be a bad guy. She left him because she is an ass hole.
IF HE IS AN ASS HOLE THEN WHY DID SHE BE WITH HIM AT FIRST PLACE?
There are two reasons:
1. She is a POOR JUDGE OF CHARACTER.. A poor judge of character among other things is a person who is characterised with making poor and bad decisions
She did not know that he was an ass hole when she was dating him.
She went on ahead to become pregant for him.
Yani hakujua kama jamaa ni an ass hole wakati wanaanza mahusiano.
Akafikia mpaka hatua ya kubeba ujauzito wa an asshole tena kabla ya ndoa.!!!!
Yani mpaka muda wote huo hakujua tu kwamba she was dealing with an asshole?
Then she is a poor judge of character.
And in case for the divorced. Mwanamke ume anza kudate na mwanaume, mmekuwa wachumba, mmefunga ndoa, umezaa nae mtoto wa kwanza, wa pili, wa tatu ndio unakuja kujua kwamba he is just an asshole then it means that ur a poor judge of character.
U dont need to be trusted in as far the issue of making rational decision is concerned.
If she is a poor judge of character then guess what ? Next time when she makes her foolish decision you will be the victim of that decision and i cant tell what else she can do.This time around it will be worse. Because if she was capable of carrying a baby for an asshole then what any other thing that she cannot do?
Getting a baby with an asshole is as good as killing that baby. If she can kill her own kid then what else can she not do?
The point is whatever this poor woman is going to decide u will be the one to fall a victim. I am talking to you guy that thinks that it is cool to date or marry a single.mother.
2. SHE IS ATTRACTED TO IRRESPONSIBLE AND BAD GUYS.
A guy that has the guts to impregnate a girl and leave or abandon her with the kids is simply a bad guy, an irresponsible guy or an asshole .
The fact that she got a baby for him demonstrates that she is narurally attracted to bad guys.
She is not attracted to a " nice guy" like you. Ur not her type ndio maana when she was in her prime u couldn't be able to even see the place where she has urinated.
But now she is with you because she knows that the type od guys that she is primarily attracted to( the bad guys) are no longer interested with her.
So she has come to you because she think ur a " nice guy" and u can handle her kids.
She knows for real that the bad guy can never take that kind of shit.
Blv me atakapo kuzoea atarudi kwa aina ya wanaume ambao anavutiwa nao kiukweli ukweli ( the bas guys) na wewe utabaki kama financial supporter to fund her life style and take care of her kids.
Atakuonyesha mapenzi mengi ya uongo lakini kiukweli kabisa yeye mapenzi yake ni kwa bad guys.
Ur not her type. She is with you because she think ur a " nice guy" and to them a.nice guy means a foolish guy. The only good think about nice guys is that they are nice ( nice guys means foolish guys)
Am talking about the kinds of the nice ( foolish guys ) who can play the role of a very perfect step daddy but cannot take care of their own blood.
No wonder they say nice guys are always not nice to themselves.
SULUHISHO:
1. KUHUSU NDOA MWANAMKE ATAFUTIWE MUME NA BABA AKE MZAZI AU KAMA BABA AKE MZAZI HAYUPO HAI BASI BABA ZAKE WAKUBWA AU BABA ZAKE WADOGO AU WAJOMBA ZAKE.
Kwanini ? Kwa sababu most women are poor judge of characters. They are not capable of making rational decision when it comes to choosing their life partners ( husband)
Utaratibu huu upo toka enzi za Pontyo wa Pilato. Babu zetu waliufuata utaratibu huu ndio maana ndoa zao zilidumu.
Familia nyingi za kitajiri wanafuata utaratibu huu. Hata familia za baadhi ya viongozi wakubwa hufuata utaratibu huu.
Mfano mzuri ni kiongozi wa juu wa nchi moja jirani. Binti yake akiwa anasoma.nchini Marekani mzee akapata taarifa kwamba binti amepata mchumba raia wa Senegali ambae walikuwa wanasoma wote chuo kimoja. Jamaa huyo wa Senegali alikuwa mchezaji mzuri wa mpira wa kikapu na baadae alichukuliwa na timu moja ya NBA.
Baba alivyo sikia hivyo akasema usinitanie. Akamtuma mama wa binti aende Marekani kumwambia binti yake aachane na huyo mchumba wake mara moja.
Mzee akafanya vetting ya maana na akapatikana kijana mmoja raia wa nchi hiyo hiyo ambae familia yake na familia ya mh huyo zina uhusiano wa Karibu kwa miongo kadhaa. Kijana huyo alizaliwa na kukulia Canada na binti huyo alizaliwa Belgium.
Mwisho wa siku Ndoa ya wawili hao ilifungwa.
2. Stop dating or marrying single mother because ur encouraging their previous behaviour. Ifike mahali jamii ianze kulipa suala la usingo maza uzito unao stahili. Dating or marrying a single mother is not cool.
Katika mafundisho ya uislamu kuna fundisho linasema ukizaa mtoto kabla au nje ya ndoa mtoto huyo anakuwa sio mtoto wala hana haki ya kurithi mali zako na kama ni mtoto wa kike basi unaruhusiwa hata kumuoa.
Lengo la andiko hilo sio kuwa encourage watu wawaoe binti zao walio wazaa nje ya ndoa ama kuwa encourage watu wawanyime haki zao watoto wa nje ya ndoa ila lengo lake ni KUONYESHA KIWANGO CHA UBAYA WA KUZAA WATOTO KABLA AU NJE YA NDOA.
Kwa ajili ya kuilinda Taasisi Tukufu ya Ndoa na kwa maslahi mapana ya makuzi na malezi ya watoto( ambao ndio wanapaswa kuwa beneficiaries wakubwa wa ndoa) zitengenezwe sheria zina jinaisha mambo kama :
1. Kumuoa mwanamke mwenye mtoto liwe kosa la jinai lenye adhabu kali.
2. Kuoa mwanamke ambae ameachika na ambae wakati ana achika alikuwa na mtoto au watoto liwe kosa kisheria lenye adhabu kali.
3.
40.
Kwa ufupi makosa hayo yakulikane kama " UHALIFU DHIDI YA MIFUMO YA KIJAMII"
